A divorce is often a life-altering experience for all involved. The scars that come from a separation can last a lifetime and even flow into the next generation. Add in COVID-19, the protests, and the stress can be overwhelming. Unfortunately, the court system tends to exacerbate the animosity between the parties involved. It fosters a you against me mentality.
If you’ve decided to separate or divorce, utilizing the collaborative divorce process can significantly minimize the collateral damage, allow you to be in control, stay out of court and keep your sanity. During this process, a team of experts work together with the couple to find a mutually agreeable divorce agreement, resulting in a more peaceful divorce that can be easier on the wallet as well. Both clients are supported by their own divorce coach. The attorneys are specially trained in a collaborative, cooperative approach to divorce instead of an adversarial one. Importantly, the child specialist is there to work with the children and the parents, identify any issues and devise a plan to address them.
In the collaborative process, we work with the family as a whole. We teach them how to communicate, co-parent and how to develop healthy mental and emotional habits that can help them reduce their stress levels.
Here are some stress-reducing strategies we have shared with our clients:
- Don’t let your tea kettle whistle – take action when your stressors or triggers start, not as they are about to explode
- Find ways to blow off steam daily – even if it’s just for a few minutes – you would be surprised how a few minutes of deep breathing can reset your emotional outlook
- Don’t wait until you are in a stressful situation to try useful coping strategies – practice them when the storm is not raging
Sometimes it’s easier to sweep our emotions under the rug than deal with them, but the long-term effects of doing this can be devastating.
Take time for you and take time to decompress – you will be glad you did.
Have questions about a divorce? Consider attending a Divorce Options Workshop which takes place on the 1st Saturday of every month. Get your questions answered and learn about your options. Visit here for more information and to register.
The Collaborative Practice of San Diego is a nonprofit, multi-disciplinary referral network of independent professionals of attorneys, mental health professionals and financial advisors working together to learn, practice, and promote Collaborative processes for problem-solving and the peaceful resolution of family law issues, with an eye toward preserving the emotional state of the family.
Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or medical advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, medical or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.