Helpful Links & Reading List

Review our selected reading recommendations and online resources to assist you in your understanding of divorce and the Collaborative Divorce Process.

Civil Disputes

• Civil Collaborative Law: The Road Less Travelled (2011)
  Sherry R. Abney

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Trust & Estate Disputes

• Estate Planning for Blended Families (2012)
  Richard E. Barnes
•  Getting it Together
  Melanie Cullen
• Nolo Press Guide – Plan Your Estate
  Denis Clifford

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Collaborative Divorce

General Information

• Collaborative Law Handbook (Wiley, 2009)
  Forrest S. Mosten (San Diego member)
• Building a Successful Collaborative Practice (with Adam Cordover, ABA, 2018)
  Forrest S. Mosten (San Diego member)
• Unbundled Legal Services (with Elizabeth Potter Scully, ABA, 2017)
  Forrest S. Mosten (San Diego member)
• Avoiding Litigation (2006)
  Sherry R. Abney
• Your Personal Guide to a Successful Collaborative Divorce (2012)
  J. Max August and Diane C. August
• Collaborative Practice: Deepening the Dialogue (CLE Society, 2004)
  Nancy Cameron
• Nolo’s Essential Guide to Divorce (2014)
  Emily Doskow
• Challenging Conflict: Mediation through Understanding (2009)
  Gary Friedman and Jack Himmelstein
• Collaborative Law, A New Model for Dispute Resolution (2004)
  Sheila M. Gutterman, J.D., M.A.
• The Client’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce: Your Quick and Practical Guide to the Benefits and Procedures of Collaborative Divorce (2015)
  Joanne S. Nadell
• Roadmap to a Successful Collaborative Divorce (2012)
  Joanne S. Nadell
• The Collaborative Way to Divorce : The Revolutionary Method that Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids–Without Going to Court (2006)
  Ron Ousky and Stuart Webb
• Collaborative Family Law: Another Way to Resolve Family Disputes (Thompson Carswell, 2003)
  Richard W. Shields, Judith P. Ryan and Victoria L. Smith
• Divorce Without Court: A Guide to Mediation and Collaborative Divorce (2012)
  Katherine Stoner
• Nolo Divorce Without Court: A Guide to Mediation and Collaborative Divorce
  Katherine Stoner
• Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move On With Your Life (2007)
  Pauline Tesler and Peggy Thompson
• Collaborative Divorce: A New Paradigm (2009)
  Pauline Tesler and Peggy Thompson
• Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce Without Litigation (2017)
  Pauline Tesler

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Divorce and Children

• Video: SPLIT – A Film For Kids of Divorce (and their Parents)
  Ellen Bruno
• We’re Still Family: What Grown Children Have To Say About Their Parents’ Divorce (2005)
  Dr. Contsance Ahrons (San Diego member)
• Collateral Damage: Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce (2017)
  Dr. John T. Chirban
• Maggie in the Middle (2006)
  Nancy Douglas Cook
• Don’t Alienate the Kids (2010)
  Bill Eddy
• New Ways for Families: Parent Workbook (2009)
  Bill Eddy
• Divorce the Collaborative Way: Is It The Way For You? (2009)
  Melinda Eitzen and Scott Clarke
• Divorce: A Problem to be Solved, Not a Battle to be Fought (1997)
  Dr. Karen Fagerstrom, Dr. Peggy Thompson, and Dr. A. Rodney Nurse
• In the Name of the Child: A Developmental Approach to Understanding and Helping Children of Conflicted and Violent Divorce, Second Edition (2009)
  Janet Johnson, Vivienne Roseby, and Kathryn Kuehnle
• Talking To Children About Divorce: A Parent’s Guide to Helathy Communication At Each Stage of Divorce (2016)
  Jean McBridge, MS, LMFT
• Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers (2006)
  Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Mater

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Divorce and Communication

• BIFF: Quick Responses to High-Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns Paperback (2014)
  Bill Eddy
• Taking the War Out of Our Words (3rd Edition) (2007)
  Sharon Strand Ellison
• Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate (2006)
  Roger Fisher and Daniel Shapiro
• Difficult Conversations: How To Discuss What Matters Most. (2010)
  Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Shiela Heen, and Roger Fisher
• The Argument Culture: Stopping America’s War of Words (1999)
  Deborah Tannen

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Divorce and Financial Issues

• Nolo’s Essential Guide to Child Custody and Support (2015)
  Emily Doskow
• A New Way To Win: How to Resolve Your Child Custody Dispute Without Giving Up, Giving In, or Going Broke  (2010)
  Bill Eddy and Tobias Desjardins
• DIVORCE: Think Financially, Not Emotionally®
  Jeffrey Landers
• Beyond Winning: Negotiating to Create Value in Deals and Disputes (2000)
  Robert Mnookin, S.C. Peppet, and A.S. Tulumello
• The House Matters in Divorce: Untangling the Legal, Financial & Emotional Ties Before You Sign On the Dotted Line (2016)
  Laurel Starks

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Divorce and LGBT Couples

• Same Sex Marriage 101: A Comprehensive Guide to Your Rights, The Law, and Your Benefits (2016)
  Jessica Hamilton
• Making It Legal: A Guide to Same-Sex Marriage, Domestic Partnerships, and Civil Unions. (2016)
  Frederick Hertz and Emily Doskow
• License To Wed: What Legal Marriage Means to Same Sex Couples (2013)
  Kimberly D. Richman
• The Therapist’s Notebook for Lesbian , Gay and Bisexual Clients: Homework, Handouts and Activities for Use In Psychotherapy
  Joy S. Whitman, Cyndy J. Boyd, editors

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Divorce and Mental Health / Emotions

• The Good Divorce (1998)
  Dr. Constance Ahrons (San Diego member)
• Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions (2008)
  Dan Ariely
• When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times: 20^th Anniversary Edition (2016)
  Pema Chödron
• High Conflict People in Legal Disputes (2005)
  Bill Eddy
• It’s All Your Fault: 12 Tips For Managing People Who Blame Others for Everyone (2012)
  Bill Eddy
• Managing High Conflict People in Court (2008)
  Bill Eddy
• Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (2011)
  Bill Eddy, and Randi Kieger
• Second-Hand Shock: Surviving & Overcoming Vicarious Trauma (2012)
  By Izzo, Ellie Izzo and Vicki Carpel Miller
• Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life (2005)
  Jon Kabat-Zinn
• Full Catastrophe Living (Revised Edition): Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness (2013)
  Jon Kabat-Zinn and Thich Nhat Hanh
• Mindfulness for Beginners: Reclaiming the Present Moment―and Your Life (Paperback 2016)
  Jon Kabat-Zinn
• A General Theory of Love (Vintage 2001)
  Thomas B. Lewis, Fari Amini and Richard Lannon
• Forgive for Good: A Prescription for Health and Happiness (2003)
  Fred Luskin
• In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction (2010)
  Dr. Gabor Mate
• When the Body Says No: Understanding the Stress-Disease Connection (2008)
  Dr. Gabor Mate
• The Developing Mind: How Relationships And The Brain Interact To Shape Who We Are, Second Edition (2015)
  Dr. Daniel J. Siegal

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Divorce and Parenting

• The Co-Parents’ Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted, Resilient and Resourceful Kids in a Two-Home Family (2014)
  Karen Bonnell and Kristen Little
• The Conscious Parent’s Guide to Coparenting, A Mindful Approach to Creating a Collaborative, Positive Parenting Plan (2016)
  Jenna Flowers
• The Co-parenting Survival Guide: Letting Go of Conflict After a Difficult Divorce (2001)
  Elizabeth Zimmerman and Jeffrey Thayer

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Mediation

• Complete Guide to Mediation: Effectively Representing Clients in Family Mediation, 2^nd Edition (with Elizabeth Potter Scully, ABA, 2015)
  Forrest S. Mosten (San Diego member)
• Mediation Career Guide (Wiley 2001)
  Forrest S. Mosten (San Diego member)
• Narrative Mediation: A New Approach to Conflict Resolution (2000)
  John Winslade and Gerald Monk
• Practicing Narrative Mediation: Loosening the Grip of Conflict (2008)
  John Winslade and Gerald Monk

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