Divorcing in the Month of Love

February is the month of love.

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But what if love is lost?

What if instead of falling in love, or being in love, you are facing the end of love or the transition from marriage to divorce?

That makes the month of February pretty lonely and painful.  Divorce is a significant life transition, full of anxiety-producing unknowns such as: Where will I live? How much money will I have? Will my children be ok?  Will I ever find love again? Can I still retire as planned?

Most people think of Divorce as a terrible, horrible, awful, no good, expensive, and destructive process. But what if it didn’t have to be that way?  The good news is, there are gentler, kinder, more constructive ways to get divorced such as Mediation and Collaborative Divorce.

Mediation: In mediation, you work with a neutral third party, usually an attorney. The mediator’s job is to provide information, help you explore your options, and help you both come to agreements acceptable to both of you. You may both consult with your own attorneys. Most mediators will have a list of mediation friendly attorneys who will advise you and support you in the mediation process. You may also bring in a neutral financial professional.

Collaborative Divorce: In a Collaborative Divorce, you, your spouse, and your children will be supported by a team of professionals.

Each team consists of an Attorney and Coach for each party, a Financial Professional, and a Child Specialist who works with both sides as neutrals.

The Collaborative Attorneys have additional training specific to the Collaborative Divorce Process and everyone agrees to stay out of court.

The Divorce Coaches work with you to establish your goals, manage your emotions, and learn to communicate more effectively in the divorce process.

The Neutral Financial Professional works with both parties as a neutral to gather financial information and help explore options for the division of marital property as well as child and spousal support.

Finally, if you have minor children, both of you and the children will be supported by a Child Specialist. The Child Specialist will meet with the children and with the parents to help establish a parenting plan unique to your family’s needs, identify any concerns the children may have, and create a plan for addressing those concerns.

By Shawn Skillin, Esquire

The Collaborative Practice San Diego is a nonprofit, multi-disciplinary referral network of independent professionals of attorneys, mental health professionals and financial advisors working together to learn, practice and promote Collaborative processes for problem-solving and the peaceful resolution of family law issues in regard to co-parenting, with an eye toward preserving the emotional, as well as the financial assets of the family.

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Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or medical advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, medical or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.

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