Category Archives: Divorce

Spring Cleaning – Does That Include Your Marriage?

| March 16, 2021
By: Shawn D. Skillin, Collaborative Family Law Attorney and Mediator After 24 years as a Divorce Attorney, I have noticed some patterns emerge in my practice. They have evolved a little over the years as we’ve trudged through recessions and a pandemic. But the current trend seems to hold.  Spring and Divorce go hand in hand.  This pattern was found… Read More

Don’t Let Divorce Ruin Your Life!

| February 17, 2021
By Shawn D. Skillin, Esq. Lynn Waldman, LCSW, Counselor and Divorce Coach recently published a Blog entitled “Is Divorce Ruining Your Life.”  In my experience as a Divorce Attorney, this is a sentiment frequently expressed by clients, even the ones that want the divorce to begin with. In her blog, Lynn reminds us that divorcing spouses are not really “starting… Read More

Child Custody in a Collaborative Divorce

| February 10, 2021
2020 was a trying year. One thing that may stood out to you the most is the need to begin the divorce process. And with that decision, your children are part of your decision to seek a marital dissolution. Your children are the best part of your marital journey, and you want to preserve and keep intact what you can,… Read More

Divorcing in the Month of Love

| February 5, 2021
February is the month of love. Do you have concern about divorce process? Collaborative San Diego can help you, contact us today at (858) 472-4022 to schedule a consultation! But what if love is lost? What if instead of falling in love, or being in love, you are facing the end of love or the transition from marriage to divorce?… Read More

How to Manage the Stress and Anxiety of Divorce

| January 27, 2021
By Shawn Skillin, Esquire ShawnSkillinLaw.com Divorce is a big, huge, significant, and stressful life transition. It’s not a transition that most people plan for. Whether you asked for the divorce yourself or were surprised by a request for a divorce from your spouse there is change ahead and change produces stress and anxiety.  You may not be sleeping well, eating… Read More

What You Should Know About Your Mortgage When You Divorce

| December 15, 2020
The divorce process has so many moving and evolving parts. Our clients are often not only concerned with how their family will be emotionally impacted, but they are also interested in learning how their financial landscape will change, especially their home mortgage. One of the first financial questions we get asked is how their mortgage will be impacted. For many… Read More

Who Gets the Kids for Holiday Vacation?

| November 18, 2020
Mother with son and daughter (wearing Santa hats) on lap reading a Christmas story.
When you are in the middle of getting divorced and have kids, if you are not careful, they can have a stressful holiday vacation. It is not healthy for a child to be thrust into the middle of a divorce and forced to pick sides or choose who they stay with during the Thanksgiving and Christmas vacations. But, when you… Read More

How to Cope with Emotional Triggers After Remarriage

| September 29, 2020
Woman sitting on couch playing with her wedding ring talking to a counselor.
There is no doubt that divorce can be a hurricane of emotions – even after your divorce has been finalized and you are remarried – but recognizing your emotional triggers and working through them can help your current marriage. Dealing with your emotional triggers is not an easy path to go down. But if you do not process your emotions… Read More

Child Custody and Moving During a Collaborative Divorce

| August 5, 2020
Divorce court proceedings have been put in a queue in many counties in California with no clear definition of when in-person courtroom appearances will happen again. Many court proceedings are being conducted on video platforms. With hearings not being scheduled for months. But, if you utilize the collaborative divorce process, you do not have to wait for the courts to… Read More

Should You Use Social Media During a Divorce

| July 29, 2020
Ladies hands doing social media on cell phone.
Today, with the extensive use of smartphones and social media, we want to “share” with our virtual friends and family how we live out our lives – the “good” and the “bad” through our social media status updates, tweets and pics. The goal of the collaborative divorce process is to find a way to work with your spouse in a… Read More